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If you’re 26 or younger, I’ve got news for you: 27 is a scary age.
Why? That’s the big year of marriage. Sure, people get married younger than 27, but those tend to be the couples who have been together for years and years, whom you expect to get married.
At 27, your single friends start getting married.
And that is how I ended up in Augsburg, Germany.
If you’ve traveled with me for any length of time, you’ve heard me tell at least one Josh story. My early twenties were spent partying pretty hard in Boston. I was everyone’s party friend. And Josh was MY party friend.
We first met at a house party given by a mutual friend of ours. I was about to start a new job at his company the following Monday. We bonded quickly, as you can see by the first picture of us ever taken:
We woke up that next morning, him snoring on the couch, me slumped in a recliner with a bag of chips on my lap. There was a full-frontal naked man staring at us from the computer screen. And did I mention we were in a house full of lesbians?
That was only the beginning. Our adventures included:
- Going out for dinner quite often — “dinner” meaning three oysters and three martinis each.
- Going out until 4 AM on a work night at least once a month. Which is impressive when you consider that nothing in Boston is open past two.
- Requesting Snoop Dogg’s “Sexual Eruption” again and again at various clubs until they played it, us usually the only two on the dance floor.
- Going out to a gay strip club that played porn starring the actual guys dancing on the bar.
- Most memorably, ALMOST playing Ding Dong Ditch on the house of a prominent member of U.S. Congress. Thank God we got lost and couldn’t find it.
And so when Josh told me he was not only getting married at the ripe old age of 27, but getting married and moving to GERMANY, my response was simply, “WHAT IS GOING ON?!”
And so Dave and I ended up traveling to the Bavarian city of Augsburg, a 25-50 minute train ride outside Munich.
I’ve been to lots of weddings — primarily traditional Catholic weddings. This one was not remotely like any of the others (and not just because it was two guys).
The festivities started with a civil ceremony in German and English. The grooms wore designer jeans, button-downs, and waistcoats.
We then celebrated with a champagne reception in the courtyard of a nearby building.
Next stop: beer hall! I can’t remember the name of the local brew, but it’s delicious!
And then, naturally, daytime bar-hopping. It wasn’t long before Daniel broke out the leiderhosen.
We finished at a place called KahnFahrt (hehehe) where we rowed around the canals.
What a great day.
I was a bit nervous before meeting Daniel, as I’m sure all friends are before meeting their good friend’s future husband whom they haven’t even met, but within a few minutes, I adored him. He is such an incredibly kind guy — and charming, and friendly, and intelligent, and thoughtful. Not to mention HANDSOME.
The wedding was just filled wish so much love. Their friend, a baker, made beautiful cupcakes. Daniel’s father, a musician, wrote a song for them called “You Have a Golden Heart.” The family dog made an appearance.
Best of all? There will be a bigger ceremony next summer. I can’t wait.
The Legal Aspect of Same-Sex Marriage in Germany
Technically, it was a civil partnership. Daniel told me later that although civil partnerships include many of the rights of marriage, they don’t receive all of them. When a couple marries in Augsburg, the taxes of the higher-earning spouse are cut in half, and the other spouse’s taxes are reduced significantly. That doesn’t happen for civil partnerships. (However, another same-sex couple filed a lawsuit against the city for this, so it may be changing.)
Separate is not equal.
That said, I’m so glad that Josh was able to immigrate to Germany. Even though same-sex marriage has been legal in Massachusetts since 2004, it’s not legal at the federal level, which means that Daniel can’t immigrate to the United States.
Those of us who fight for LGBT equality have a long way to go. But we’re getting there.
As for Augsburg, I loved it! I tend to enjoy small cities more than huge ones (Innsbruck rather than Vienna, Bologna rather than Rome), and I much preferred Augsburg to enormous, overwhelming, touristy Munich.
Augsburg is a walkable city with a lot of nice architecture and a cool Old Town with canals.
In the city center, you’ll find lots of cool cafes, bars, and restaurants. A few of my favorite places: Pow Wow, a cafe that becomes a bar at night (and has delicious Pow Wow punch cocktails that taste like orange Hi-C), and Pizzeria Dragone, home to some of the best pizza I’ve had on my travels.
I felt so comfortable here. Munich is where you go to visit; Augsburg is just a sweet place to live. Daniel is actually originally from Munich and can attest to that.
And — if you’re looking for a cheap way to do Oktoberfest, Augsburg is an excellent option, especially if you’re in a group. There is a hostel in Augsburg, but it isn’t listed on any of the major hostel-booking sites. There are also “group tickets” for the train in Bavaria that allow groups of up to four people (I believe) to travel on one ticket for the price of two, and the cheap, slow train only takes 50 minutes.
The New Life in Europe
At first I was really excited that Josh would be living in Europe. I could imagine the emails we’d send each other — “20 euro flights to Gdansk this weekend! Let’s go!”
We’re still going to do that. Only now we want to bring Dave and Daniel. It would be so much more fun with them (and the four of us had a blast together).
And so we live on as two reformed partiers from Boston, now grown up and settled in Europe. Josh and I are still partying up around the world — but not as often, as hard, or as irresponsibly — and we’ve found partners we want to bring along for the ride.
This life is the right one, indeed.
30 thoughts on “An Offbeat Wedding in Augsburg, Germany”
LOVED this, matey! Not to put a negative spin on such a lovely day, but what a load of bollocks that developed nations like the US and the UK still haven’t got over themselves and made same sex marriage the same as a man and a woman.
But like you, I live in hope that the world will wake up one day 🙂 It’s always nice to hear about strong friendship bonds after so many years.
Seriously, Anthony. You probably don’t see as much of it as I do, but it is SCARY how much influence religion (and by religion I mean evangelical Christianity) has in U.S. politics.
We definitely have a LONG way to go for LGBT equality here in the U.S. That said, I’m glad Josh was able to tie the knot, and at least you have many fun trips to Germany to look forward to in the future!
(P.S. If Daniel has any gay brothers, let me know — I need to hook my brother up and I’m dying to go back to Germany.) 😉
HA! Katie, I can’t help you when it comes to brothers, but there are DEFINITELY a lot of hot gay dudes in Augsburg!
Congratulations to the newlyweds! 😀
Haha… as a single 27-yr-old, I’m feeling those opening remarks.
Beautiful town, Augsburg – I visited in 2003 and your photos captured its beauty well. So glad everything went well with the ceremony and congratulations to your friends! Great post about a wonderfully supertastic event! A new life in Germany sounds divine.
Thank you, Kelsey! Glad you visited Augsburg. It’s a really nice city.
Gorgeous town! I’m 26 and already all of my high school friends have husbands and kiddos. Congrats newlyweds!
That is crazy, Teresa! You must be the resident Auntie Travel!
What a lovely post and a lovely sentiment. I’ve been to a lot of weddings the past couple of years. At some point they all start to blur together, except for the ones that have two special ingredients: authenticity and spontaneity. When the wedding is really all about the couple (instead of the production value), you can feel it. And when the wedding is a little bit different and a little less routine, it not only makes it more fun, it makes it more memorable. Plus Augsburg looks gorgeous!
I agree, Marina, I always remember the crazy, distinctive moments at weddings. At my good friend’s wedding back in April, her new husband broke out AMAZING dance moves to N Sync’s “Pop.” IT. WAS. AWESOME. At one point, he actually FLEW.
Ahhh, nice post Kate. Congrats to the happy couple, too!
So great that your friend can immigrate to Germany. I see this all the time in Berlin and it’s always encouraging.
Oh, and the train ticket is called a “Länder-Ticket” and is good for up to 5 people. Used one just last weekend to go down to Dresden—it’s a brilliant travel trip and you’ll see so many people in the stations looking for groups to start/join for the ticket. It’s a great way to make new friends, too 🙂
Adam, thank you so much for clarifying the train information! I had no idea people met up for that purpose!
As a single 26 year old, I can definitely relate to the “EVERYONE IS GETTING MARRIED” bit. Aahh!! Every time I turn on facebook it’s just pictures of a wedding or a new baby (or second baby). Sigh. But I’m very happy that your friend found happiness and had a fun wedding. Hopefully they will soon have equal rights, I’m all for it!
Kaleena, the second babies are pretty terrifying!
What a wonderful story – that is so amazing your friend was able to immigrate to Germany. Truthfully I had not thought much about the logistics of a cross-border gay marriage – even if their status isn’t the same as a married couple, at least they’re together.
Thanks for sharing! Also great tips on the train.. I am hoping to go to Munich in October (…guess why) and that is an excellent idea.
I know. That’s one of the issues that gets lost in the shuffle when it comes to LGBT rights. Probably because it is distracting and adds to the immigration debate.
The wedding pictures are awesome and it looks like you guys had a great day. Everyone looks so dapper!
Not to scare you, but if you fast forward 2-3 years, that’s when “everyone is having a baby” starts. :-\
Diana, I hadn’t even thought of that, but you are TOTALLY right…scary!
I knew that same-sex marriage was legal in some parts of the US, but it´s certainly difficult when it’s not nationwide accepted – specially when love comes from somewhere else! I’m glad your friend could move to Germany… it’s a lovely country, and Augsburg, I agree, it’s a stunning little city to live in!!
Really! You’ve been to Augsburg, Katherina?
I second Diana above. I’m 30 and everybody’s having babies!!
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Congrats to the grooms, I LOVED what the they wore!
So did I! 🙂 Can’t wait to see them again.
Cute story. My scary age was actually more 33-34 as most of my single friends got married around that age. Yet, I had to wait until I was almost 35 to witness a same sex marriage of two great girlfriends. The good NEWS is that same sex couples are equal with the income tax regulation now. ( since 2 weeks). Oh and by the way its called : “Lederhosen”
Great news, Synke! Thanks.
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Hi Kate. Thanks for sharing the story. I was born in Augsburg but have lived in the US since I was 2 years old. I’m going for my first visit this May. If you have any tips for a single gay guy (bars, etc) that you can share I’d love you immediately for it.
Augsburg is our favorite “get away”. I was stationed there from 1976 to 1980; we have traveled back there 3 or 4 times now, just to stay in Augsburg and take 1-2 day trips around Europe from there. Would be a dream to be able to actually live there. Maybe in retirement. 😀